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Rebellion

To some parents, teachers and youth workers, the phrase “teen rebellion” may seem redundant. At times it does seem that adolescence is synonymous with rebellion.

Teenage rebellion occurs for many and varied reasons. In some cases, it is simply an awkward expression of an adolescent’s stumbling progress toward adulthood. However, in many cases adolescent rebellion also stems from a number of roots, among which may be a poor relationship with parents, an effort to communicate, a need for control, a lack of boundaries and expectations, an expression of anger and aggression, and the absence of an honest and vulnerable model.

As has been said, all adolescents are likely to rebel in one way or another. Rebellious thoughts and behavior are not only common, but they are also natural. Such rebellious tendencies can even be beneficial in helping teens to grow toward independence and their parents to adjust their expectations and practices. However, prolonged rebellion can be both dangerous and harmful to both parent and child.

Counseling rebellious and delinquent youth is a very difficult, slow and often frustrating task. Success might be marginal at best. Though attempting to help and guide a rebellious youth is indeed a challenge, the sensitive and discerning adult may be able to offer help in the following ways discussed in this article.

Guilt

Teenagers who are struggling with guilt are usually very sensitive to the possibility of being condemned or judged by others. In fact, they often expect it.

It takes great courage for them to disclose their feelings of guilt to you. They will probably not profit from your platitudes or reprimand to “stop feeling guilty.”

Nothing encourages this delicate process more than for the caring adult or parent to be genuinely understanding, accepting, and non-judgmental. This attitude reassures the young, “I am not interested in evaluating your behavior or judging your morality. I am interested in helping you to establish and accomplish your own goals.”

It may be possible, however, for the youth to confront and deal with his or her guilt by carefully and sensitively leading him or her through a course of action share in this article.